今天, 是踏入師奶行列第八個月.
自婚後, 心底裡, 都有N乘N次方的問題和煩擾.
婚前, 頭腦簡單地以為, 跟男方家人一起生活, 應該問題不大.
反正, 你是你, 我是我.
原來, 以前所想的, 實在太簡單.
今天, 和任何人談起有關話題, 都很緊張地勸對方: 千萬不要和對方家人一起住. 除非婚前和雙方家人都很熟絡又易相處.
婚後, 和已婚的姐妹談起, 大家都會同心嘆氣: 要跟對方家人相處, 實在是很難的學問.
慒盛盛的婆仔和對方家人同住, 聽到的已婚姐妹, 都對婆仔的EQ讚嘆不已.
其實, 婆仔都是混著過日子.
每次老爺歸來時, 婆仔都會覺得, 他是想婆仔做一個古時的新抱: 就是服侍家公, 服侍老公, 和服侍老公的兄弟, 以及打掃全屋的家務.
細心眼的婆仔, 發現老爺自婆仔婚後, 把大部分家務撒手不管(除了幫叔仔清洗N年前用過不洗的碗筷和幫他們掛衣服外, 老爺對其他都不幹了). 婆仔從此深信, 踏入此家, 就是要做個古時新抱.
只是, 現代人的婆仔除了要朝九晚五外, 回到家還要義務幫叔仔執頭執尾(即做阿四), 現代思想的婆仔實在很氣頂. 婆仔又不是你家工人, 我只是陳二少的老婆, 為什麼要服侍你?....婆仔常常都這樣跟自己說的.
所以, 開始訓練隻眼開隻眼閉. 一於當叔仔的手尾透明.
不過, 壓力, 都會隨每次遇到老爺自內地回來時, 增加.
每次觀察到老爺把叔仔的麻煩手尾清除後, 婆仔都覺得不好意思. 然後, 又會覺得在老爺心中, 扣起大分來.
如果老爺, 可以像戲中的老爺一樣, 多點和婆仔談話就好了. 起碼, 婆仔可以了解老爺心中所想.
徧徧, 每次婆仔嘗試撩老爺話題時, 老爺都是一句起, 兩句止. 然後雙方話題結束.
婆仔很想知是什麼原因.
陳二少說這是老爺性格.
不過, 每次同枱吃飯, 老爺跟叔仔的話題和關心, 都不是平時對婆仔的一臉兒樣子.
今天, 難得"病假"遠離懶精好人同事甲.
碰巧老爺在家, 婆仔就這樣, 被吩咐幫陳二少和叔仔掛衣服....婆仔立時想起: 洗衣機有叔仔的內褲唷.(婆仔的所有衣服, 是不和男人衣服一起洗的)
不過, 對著少溝通的老爺, 唯有應了一聲: 啊.
心裡, 應了一句: 有無搞錯, 有男人內褲呀.
然後, 又想起古時新抱的辛酸.
母親知道後, 又是催促婆仔趕快買樓.
我阿媽知我脾氣臭,佢教落千萬唔好同老公d屋企人一齊住. 最好搵個父母雙亡,冇親戚既最好. 因為親戚係最麻煩既人.
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回覆刪除橄欖人 可惜我媽無教呢樣野. 親威係麻煩, 尤其係潮州冷, 過大禮那天, 我的父母和姑姐才知我夫家佢地係潮州冷, 大家都心諗: 唉....以後婆仔可慘了. 我心諗: 下...咁典算 不過為時已晚....就做半個潮州婆了
回覆刪除老公 , 和 老爺 少溝通...........難為了 新抱 ,
回覆刪除喟, 我老豆夠係父母雙亡, 點知, 有個共走難既大姑奶, 即係伯父個老婆, 我亞媽, 一世人, 都俾匿個共走難的大姑奶食住. 亞媽同亞爸呻, 亞爸話, 大姑奶戰時對佢有恩, 叫我媽萬大事要忍亞大姑奶. 總之, 對方的麻煩親戚, 越少越好.
回覆刪除仲有, 據我既觀察 (主要係我亞爸), "古代" 既男人, 唔興同女人講野, 你係佢新抱, 嘩, 更加不可以 "撩" (係, 傾偈都算係撩). 你叔仔係佢個仔, 你係一個原本三九唔識七既女人, 唔係因為亞二少, 你老爺識你係老鼠, 點解佢要將你同叔仔一視同仁, 係冇?
回覆刪除ah chan, 老老實實, 我都覺老公同老爺好少溝通的 大頭娘, 係呀, 佢識我老鼠. 我唔會寄望得寵, 因為我唔係靠佢生存, 不過都想佢當我係家中的一分子. 而唔係問一句答一句咁囉.
回覆刪除阿乜水: 人人有希望, 起碼你仲可以買樓避開. 而我 唉.......
回覆刪除Seems you are living in a traditional family. It always good to chat and bad to live together. Your better half should consider the situation and make negotiation with different parties.
回覆刪除do you know what's ur lo yeah's interest?! for example, get his favorite dim sum... or get his newspaper...if he like Tai-chi, maybe u can ask him to teach u or something etc. sometimes he might just miss the way when his wife was there. My loyeah was pretty quiet when we first met! he's a westerner though, but old-fashioned one too... he expect the girls do everything! We don't live together, but yet, I take time to really focus on what he like, for example, he loves tomato, he loves mushroom, ice-cream (Chocolate mint and certain brand Vanila ice-cream)... race-car etc.... I don't do much, but yet, he knows I care about him. Therefore he opens up more now! Good luck, girl!
回覆刪除he might not know how to handle girls either... that maybe why he only give you short answers... it takes time... but he knows you're good to his son. Then that's enough! Cheer up and enjoy ur family life!
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